One of the things that many people struggle with is lacking the confidence to go after what they want in life. This can lead to a lack of fulfillment and a general sense of frustration. However, there are many confidence building exercises that those with low self esteem can try that will help them to attempt those dreams and goals.
Those who lack confidence often do not pay enough attention to their outward appearance. While true confidence does come from within, taking the time to groom oneself can actually help build confidence because it is a type of self care. The person who fixes their hair and selects appropriate and attractive clothing is sending a message to the subconscious that they matter. Over time, the message will become a part of the person.
The perception a person has of themselves can greatly influence how they feel. Many people send negative messages to their internal selves throughout the day without even realizing it. Things like “I can’t…” or “I would never…” wreak havoc on the self esteem. Paying attention to internal dialogue is an important step in learning how to change these messages.
One great confidence building exercise is to record these negative self messages when the occur and to develop alternatives that have a more positive statement. When a person begins to tune in to their own dialogue, it is possible to replace these messages. While it may be awkward at first, eventually the new, more positive messages will be second nature.
Among the popular exercises used to help build confidence, one is to begin to change negative habits. For those who tend to overindulge in food, alcohol or other addictive substances, it can create a negative cycle of behavior that destroys self esteem. Finding new behaviors and employing them instead will increase confidence. It is vital to find alternatives to the negative behaviors that will boost internal dialogue and perception.
Good choices for alternate activities include reading a book or taking an exercise class. Some people may choose to take a community education course on a topic of interest or even to take classes at a local community college that can improve their ability to accomplish their job or that may eventually lead to another educational goal.
Volunteering time is another great exercise that has helped many people to remain positive even when other circumstances in their lives may be challenging. Working for a local food bank or helping out with disabled children can be both a humbling experience and rewarding when the positive results are seen. This is most effective when the person chooses something that they feel passionately about. Making a positive difference in the world and not focusing on the negative is important for everyone.
All of these confidence building exercises can help those who struggle with self esteem issues. Over time, they become a part of the person. Not only will they feel the difference, it is likely that others will notice as well.